Updated: Nov 24, 2020
Got too much time on your hands
Even though we have all had more time on our hands to effectively rest during lockdown, it would appear that more and more people are actually stressed! Why is this? Stressed if we have no time and stressed if we have to much time. If this is the case then perhaps we’re needed to take a closer look at stress, examine what causes it and holds we can manage it daily.
Stress is created by worrying about things in the future or things that have already happened, both of which you cannot change at the very moment you are worrying about it. Before you read any further do this little test. ‘At this very very moment Whist you are reading this is there a problem affecting you reading this article at this moment in time
Everything seems much faster, urgent and possibly un-filling! Everyone snoops around asking or trying to create a new moment resolution that they all know they won’t keep for the whole twelve days let alone a year.
Living too much into the future or reliving the past are both causes of fear and pain. These are often the questions one is faced with:
• How can you stop the pain? • How can you switch your mind off, • how can you stop worrying? • How can you relax? • How can I be happy?
Well two words’ acceptance‘ and ‘surrender‘ is a good place to start. Become fully present so that the past and future can ceases to have any power over you causing stress, worry and unhappiness.
If only out life was like typing when we can simply undo, delete or Hyperlink to a quick useful reference but alas, lots of things are unavoidable in life. Never before has it become more important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress, especially as they can lead to short or long term illnesses.
Here are some of the things that can be done instantly by just remembering to be conscious of them.
Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.
• Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. • Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time. • Prioritise your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. • Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you. • Manage your commitments by not over- or under committing. Don’t commit to what is not important to you. • Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines. • Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. • Build healthy coping strategies
It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.
Plan how you are going to reduce Stress and Conflict
Some behaviours and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:
• Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations. • Have a sense of purpose in life. • Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping. • Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defence against stress. • Get moderate exercise throughout the week. • Limit your consumption of alcohol. • Don’t smoke.
Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.
When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body’s stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.
• Thought-catching helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress. • Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly. • Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it. • Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated.
This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.